![]() ![]() For every competition that we enter, when she comes first I always come in second. As much as I hate that I cannot change it. I have always been told that I am living in her shadow and will never live up to her superiority. She's also smarter than me and one thing I HATE is being labelled as the dumber one. If there's a personal question she wants answers to she'll ask anyways. She refuses to be hugged, or petted, and makes no attempt to make conversation even if the conversation is getting awkward and no one else is volunteering to say anything. If she doesn't like something about you she'll confirm it to your face rather than find something to compliment instead. I let my friends hug me and pat my head no matter how much it irks me when they do it, but they like it so I let them. I hate being social but I force myself to in order to get used to social events and to make things less awkward when no one else steps up. I just smile at people and say hello to them when I see them, I try to be polite. Now this may be somewhat true, I'm well aware that this is the outlook I try to give to other people. I'm called the happier one, the one that's more approachable, and the nicer one. ![]() There's a social stigma about everything. We are no different, so anyone who is”quiet” is often seen as a threat, a defect, or someone who can’t be trusted. I know that humans are hardwired to be social (notice how primates act and how social they are with each other). It’s weird now because a lot of the family I don’t see that were mean to me always ask about me and are proud of my successes. ![]() The right people came into my life and unfortunately I had to estrange myself from certain toxic family members and never have been happier. I just inherited my small build from my dad and no amount of milk was going to fatten me up! I never tried to prove myself to anyone. It took me some time to understand that there was nothing ever wrong with my size. I noticed that those family members that complained of my weight, were themselves overweight. I wore what I wanted, styled my hair like I wanted and if people thought I was too quiet I simply stopped hanging out with those people. I was then told by my sister that she always admired my ability to be myself and not conform. It didn’t take me until well after college to fully understand that they treatment towards me was due to them being insecure about how they looked and the status that they held in the family. I, unfortunately came from a family with such insecurities that they bullied me for my introverted personality, my small build (I was always told to drink milk because, to them, I was “too skinny”) and they mocked my hair type (thick Afro/curly). Moderators have full discretion in making decisions they deem to be in the best interest of the subreddit. Do not submit product, app, social media, medium, channel, or any other promotional content in the sub.No sexist, demeaning, objectifying language Please use dedicated subs such as /r/dating_advice or /r/relationshipsĤ. ![]() Matters primarily relating to mental health and illness (medications, therapy, anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation, etc) should be posted in a topic-specific subreddit: /r/depression, /r/anxiety, /r/socialanxiety, /r/selfesteem, /r/suicidewatch, etc. Rants / complaints about other people / nonspecific musings are off topic All posts must directly relate to the acquisition and/or application of social skills Posts and comments should be made in good faith.Ģ.Rediquette and conduct in accord with the site-wide Reddit Content Policy is expected and a requirement of participation.Official /r/socialskills Discord server! Rules Share your favorite social skills tips, ask for advice, or offer encouragement to others on their social skills journey. ![]()
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